Marriage Counseling and Therapy
Here are some specific situations where clients have come to us for help and how we have helped them.
You can also review client testimonials on our therapy services.
Is my husband cheating on me?
Very often we get community referrals from Ozone Park, Queens where couples have serious issues of trust in a marriage relationship.
These situations range have included:
- My husband talks to other women on the phone
- My husband is sexually attracted to another woman
- My husband is having a sexual relationship with another woman
- My husband has cheated on me, how can I ever trust him ever again?
In most situations the husband and wife want to be together but have issues of trust. In some situations these issues may be small misunderstandings that can lead to jealousy. In other instances, I have been able to help resolve extreme situations where the husband had a history of over 10 extra-marital affairs.
These are sensitive and important issues. However, these are not issues that your friends can help you resolve. Some of them, while with the best intensions, can make the situation worse. If you find yourself in a situation like this, you need a certified therapy professional to help you effectively resolve these challenges. These trust issues have a tendency of building upon them and lead to undesirable outcomes
If you find yourself in a situation where you are missing the love and trust needed to build a successful marriage, my approach is to help you address this together as a couple.
Let us take the example where my client's husband would talk to a woman friend on the phone that led to mistrust. I would first help the husband first realize the importance of the issue to his wife. Then I would help him articulate what the women that he talks to on the phone means to him and how that is very different than what his wife means to him. He would then share in specific detail that he realizes, with specific examples, how this hurts his wife and how he will change his behavior going forward. This has to be done
In another situation, where the husband has had an affair with another women. If all the husband says, "I am sorry and I will never do this again" it does not address the pain the wife has felt. In our therapy sessions he will realize that what he has done has caused extreme anguish to the wife. After he realizes the harm he has caused, I then help him with specific solutions that will first prevent him from going down that path ever again. More importantly, I set him on a path that helps him gain the trust back, through words and subsequent actions and behavior.
Your specifics of your situation may be very different or similar. We can address that by first identifying and understanding the worst to least of your pains. We can then begin repairing those starting with the very first session.